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Feeling Safe in a New Relationship

by Zuri Mwangi

Photo by Edward Eyer

Starting a new relationship can be an exciting and fulfilling experience, but your safety and well-being should take priority. As a woman, it is essential to make sure that you feel safe and respected in your new relationship and to recognize the signs of an unhealthy or abusive partnership.


Here are some tips for feeling safe in a new relationship:

  • Trust your instincts: If something doesn't feel right in your new relationship, it is important to trust your instincts and to speak up about your concerns. Don't ignore red flags or brush off behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Example: If your partner is unwilling or unable to communicate openly and honestly with you, it could be a red flag.

  • Set boundaries: It is essential to set boundaries in any relationship, especially in a new partnership. Make sure to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly, and don't be afraid to assert yourself if your boundaries are not being respected.

  • Seek support: If you feel unsafe or uncertain in your new relationship, it is important to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Don't be afraid to reach out for help if you need it.

  • Take things slow: It can be tempting to rush into a new relationship, but it is important to take things slow and to get to know your partner before jumping into a serious commitment. This can help you to build a strong foundation of trust and respect and to ensure that you feel safe and comfortable in the relationship.

  • Get to know your partner: It is important to get to know your partner and to be open and honest about your feelings and needs. This can help you build a strong and healthy relationship based on mutual respect and trust. Example: Don’t hesitate to ask open-ended questions and discuss your values, goals, and aspirations. If they don’t align with your potential partner, cut ties now rather than later.


Feeling safe in a new relationship is essential for your well-being and happiness. Be bold and speak up and seek support if you are feeling unsafe or uncertain in your new partnership. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and to feel safe in your relationship. By prioritizing your safety and well-being, you can build a strong and healthy partnership that supports and uplifts you.



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